The 21 year old son is lazy. The first reason is that his parents dote on him too much. He is not good at learning and has not received good social knowledge education. At this time, we cannot lose confidence in him and give him patient ideological education. We should find a capable and persuasive person to persuade him and educate him, so that he knows the bright future and life responsibilities. We should create wealth and start a family by ourselves, Benefit future generations. Let's learn more about our 21-year-old son's laziness?
What should I do if my 21-year-old son is too lazy
1. Set an example for children
Parents should set a good example for their children. In family education, example teaching is more important than precept teaching. When we make demands on our children, we should first do it ourselves. We should have the qualities that you want our children to develop. If we want our children to be diligent, first of all, we should not be lazy, otherwise how can we ask our children to do things that we cannot do ourselves? People say that the power of role models is infinite, especially for parents.
2. Let children get exercise
Never let go of any chance to train your child. Let him do what he can on his own. In many cases, the over protection of parents makes children lose their independence and self-confidence. Let the child try more and give him more encouragement and confidence.
3. Set time rules
In fact, as parents, the most important thing we should do is to set time rules for our children to finish everything within the specified time. Only by setting rules for them and living under the rules of this rule can they change their character. If we always use soft education strategies when educating children, it will only make children become more lazy, and our concept of educating children will have some problems.
The reason why the 21-year-old son is so lazy
1. Parents interfere too much
Parents always push their children with their own ability standards. They think that children can always do what they can, and they should do better than them. However, children's ability is limited, and their ability to develop needs to be gradual. However, parents are always eager for success, excessively interfere with children and impose pressure on children, which will only make children resist learning and become more and more lazy.
2. Parents always attack children
Some parents always intentionally or unintentionally attack their children's confidence. These behaviors are common words in the eyes of parents, but for children, they take them seriously and make them more and more inferiority complex. In fact, children don't ask their parents to give much, or give a positive look when they finish something. When they get good results, they can hear a simple praise from their parents. No matter what kind of praise parents have, they are the biggest support force for children, and will be more motivated to do anything in the future.
3. Parents didn't correct and urge in the first place
We know that many parents spoil their children too much. They know that children are too lazy and need to be reminded at all times to form the habit of diligence, but they don't urge them. One fear is that the child is unhappy, and the other is that he has worked hard. So I did it for the children when I could help them anyway. I remember one Mother's Day, the school asked the children to go home in the evening to help their mother do something, but the children reported that they either helped their mother sweep the floor or help her fold clothes. It's sad to think that sweeping the floor and folding clothes should not be the housework children usually participate in?
What should we do if our 21 year old son is particularly lazy? Most of the time, we should give him more time, patience and understanding. Proper urging and guidance can give children motivation, but we should pay attention to the truth that too much is too little. Think more from the perspective of children. Maybe you will find that sometimes children are not lazy, but just need us to give them some time to adapt.