The word "puppy love" may be the last thing many teenagers' parents want to mention. More parents are afraid of their children's puppy love. In their opinion, puppy love has no advantages but only disadvantages. They think that if two children like each other, they will fall in love with each other. They are afraid that some bad things will happen, such as the decline of children's learning. Indeed, many junior and senior high school students have also fallen in love with each other. So, what are the advantages and disadvantages of adolescent puppy love?
Advantages and disadvantages of adolescent puppy love
The disadvantages of adolescent puppy love outweigh the advantages. Today, let's take a look at the disadvantages of adolescent puppy love.
1. Puppy love is bound to invest a lot of time and energy, which directly affects the normal study and life.
2. Both male and female students in love are emotionally unstable and inattentive, especially when they are frustrated in love, which is easy to induce psychological diseases and lead to unhealthy psychology.
3. The relationship is extremely unstable. It can be said that adolescent boys and girls fall in love with each other when they are physically and mentally immature. In addition, teenagers have no economic foundation, and most of their financial resources depend on their parents. Therefore, this kind of love has no solid foundation, and it is easy to break halfway.
4. Comparatively dress up, date, treat each other, etc., and increase the family's financial burden.
5. At ordinary times, they act affectedly, posturing, or "foolishly" to win the favor of the opposite sex and produce abnormal personality.
6. Relaxation of will affects the general mood. It directly affects the class atmosphere and school atmosphere.
7. It artificially narrows the social circle of middle school students and confines them to the world of two people, which is unfavorable for middle school students to correctly handle interpersonal relationships.
8. Emotional impulse, planting bitter fruit. After boys and girls fall in love, the love scenes will become the focus of their attention and imitation, especially the kissing, cuddling and other actions of men and women in the film and television will stimulate the emotional impulse of boys and girls.
9. Students have conflicts or even fights due to jealousy, which accounts for about 40% of disciplinary violations according to statistics.
How do parents guide adolescent puppy love
1. If you find that children are in love, don't deny it simply or rudely. Don't beat or scold. Children in adolescence are very rebellious. The more their parents oppose it, the more rebellious their children are. You should know that blocking is better than opening up. It is also not allowed to rush to the school, the other party's home, or complain to the neighbors, making the city stormy. This will hurt the children's self-esteem, which is more likely to backfire.
2. We should guide the two children in a timely manner and urge them to make progress with each other. We should not find that children fall in love with each other and feel that it will affect their study. My niece is in high school. She told us that there is a pair of boys and girls in her class who fall in love. They study together at night every day and study together during the holidays. Their performance has not declined, but has improved.
3. Parents should encourage children to actively participate in activities that are beneficial to their physical and mental health to divert their attention and vent their abundant energy. A variety of collective activities on campus, as well as off campus tourism, making friends, and public welfare labor, can not only exercise, but also benefit the mind and nurture the spirit. At the same time, children are encouraged to develop their personal hobbies according to their personal interests, such as collecting stamps, reading world classics, and practicing writing and submitting articles, so as to make their spare time full of fun and happiness. Perhaps, the "puppy love" emotion will be appropriately weakened and transferred.
4. Give children enough time. When some parents find their children have puppy love, they often immediately try to break them up. Such treatment will not achieve the goal, but may strengthen their relationship. Therefore, it is suggested that when dealing with such problems, parents should be reasonable and emotional, not too impatient, but give children enough time to deal with them.
The disadvantages of adolescent puppy love outweigh the advantages. As parents, we should avoid this problem. We can often talk about puppy love with our children, ask them if they have boys or girls they like, and guide them to treat this feeling correctly in a timely manner. Parents can read more books about adolescent children's communication, so as to deal with the problem of puppy love well.