It is believed that most parents want their children to have their own opinions on how to behave and how to do things without being attached to others. But in real life, many children lack such assertiveness, because many parents do not realize what advantages the assertive children will have. Let's take a look at the benefits of assertive children.
What are the benefits of a assertive child
1. Be able to calm down. Some people say that when you are alone, you make the greatest progress. If a child is naughty and playful at ordinary times, but can do something quietly, such a dedicated child must have the potential to succeed. Only by enduring loneliness can you withstand the prosperity of the years.
2. Be bold. Bold children are generally liked. Imagine that one person stands there with an open mind, smart mouth, and no stage fright, while the other stands there with a submissive attitude, and even dare not look up. What kind of children do you prefer? Children will not develop well without courage in school or in society in the future. Of course, it's OK to be brave.
3. Have ideas and opinions. Having ideas and assertiveness is the most basic requirement for boys. If a girl has ideas and assertiveness, she will not only make her life better, but also increase her personal charm. Children with ideas and assertiveness will not only develop well in their career, but also benefit a lot in life in the future.
How to Train Children with Self determination
1. Let children make decisions on small matters. "Little things" are arranged by children themselves, such as which children to invite for their birthday, what clothes to buy in the store, and what toys to choose. "Big events" provide children with opportunities to participate, such as the layout of the room. You can plan the design scheme with the children, encourage them to put forward their own suggestions, and if feasible, try to adopt their suggestions. After the child has been affirmed, praised and praised for many times, his confidence will naturally increase and his "assertive" consciousness will gradually form.
2. Develop the habit of thinking diligently. When children have problems, guide them to think independently and solve problems actively. At the same time, children should know that they should dare to adhere to their actions or views as long as they are fully verified to be sure that their actions or views are correct, rather than being influenced by the thoughts of people around them.
3. Give children the opportunity to express their will. Get rid of the habit of making decisions for children and ask for their opinions. For example, if you take your child to the supermarket, you can ask him what he wants to buy; Before bathing your child, ask him what he should do to prepare for it; When taking a child out, you can ask him what kind of transportation he wants to take; When taking a child on a trip, ask him what he thinks he should prepare.
4. Listen to the children patiently. When children argue with their parents about what they have done, parents must not scold their children for "talking back", but give them full opportunities to explain. In addition, parents should not preempt the children's "talk". They should listen to the children's talk quietly, let the children try to express their views, and give timely advice, which will encourage the children.
What are the benefits of assertive children? Assertive children will not only have a great impact on learning and life, but also be more easily appreciated by leaders in their future work.