When parents see that their children are disobedient, they will be furious. Sometimes, if parents can't control their temper and behavior well, they will be violent to their children to vent their anger. Is this kind of education acceptable? Can parents beat and scold their children?
Can parents beat and scold their children
Parents can't beat and scold their children at will. Parents beat and scold their children, usually to punish their children for their disobedience and disruptive behavior. Education is mainly for the purpose of educating them to correct bad habits. However, in some cases, it can also cause unintentional harm to children, which constitutes an invasion of children's life and health.
The harm of parents beating and scolding their children
1. Hurt children's self-esteem
Although children are young, an important psychological feature is that their self-esteem is getting stronger and stronger as they grow older. Beating children is a serious injury to their self-esteem. Some children become more and more "skinny", from rebellion and confrontation to breaking the can and abandoning themselves.
2. Force children to lie
Some children are intimidated by the pressure of their parents. They appear to be defeated, but they are not convinced. They become "heroes do not suffer from immediate losses", and learn the bad character of steering by the wind and acting according to people's faces.
3. Lack of rule awareness
It's strange that we beat and scold children, or treat children strictly, are we not helping children to establish a sense of rules of "when to do what"? Those children who do not obey the rules and only look at their faces are gradually formed in this way.
4. Be cautious and afraid of making mistakes
Children who are often beaten for making mistakes will develop a behavior pattern of not daring to make mistakes. The driving force driving them forward in life is often not from their hearts "where they want to go", but "where they are farther away from fear, I will go".
How parents educate their children
1. Set a good example for children
Example teaching is more important than precept teaching. Parents should first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish their own prestige. If parents do not love learning, only care about their own food, drink and play, do not know what to ask, behave badly, behave vulgarly, selfishly and disrespect the elderly. Whether parents' words and deeds are wrong or correct, they have a profound impact on their children. Therefore, parents should always check their words and deeds in daily life.
2. Be patient and gentle with children and allow them to make mistakes
Children should not yell, scold or speak coldly when making mistakes. It is very helpful to cultivate a calm child not only in learning, but also in dealing with others.
3. Respect children
Parents should let their children make their own decisions about what to learn. If a child shows some hobbies, parents should not force interference and interruption, but should encourage him, because the more interested he is, the better he learns. And parents impose their own ideas on children, which will only make children more disgusted.
Can parents beat and scold their children? The best way is not to beat or scold education. For the sake of children's physical and mental health, the best way is to guide children.