If children are slow in character, they will not resist even if they are bullied by others. This is also a worry for many parents. After all, not every child fights so hard. What should we do if their children are bullied out of sight? The children are always bullied, and don't know how to resist?
The children are always bullied. They don't know how to resist
1. Understand the process of things, parents do the right guidance, let the children solve their own problems
When children are bullied, the first thing for parents to do is to understand the cause and effect of the event, whether it is the other party's fault or their children's fault, or just a small friction between children. If the child is really bullied, parents should first ask how the child wants to deal with it. For things that the child can solve by himself, he must be allowed to solve by himself, because parents cannot accompany and help at any time and anywhere.
2. Take the initiative to help children "get back justice"
For bullying that the children can't solve by themselves due to the bad circumstances, the parents should never "bite the bullet". They should take the initiative to help the children "get back justice" and ask the other party to apologize. No matter whether they are children or adults, they should apologize to their children. Only by doing so, children will know clearly that no matter what kind of bullying they suffer, their parents will not sit back and ignore them. Their parents are their strong backing, and there is nothing to be afraid of in such a situation in the future.
3. Listen to children's ideas and give examples of how to do in similar situations
No matter what happens, parents should listen to their children's ideas more. Parents can't make decisions for their children in everything, nor can they appear around their children at any time. There are many dark sides in this society. Children should know that they should not avoid suffering when facing setbacks and hardships, but should face difficulties and overcome them.
Children are always bullied and don't know the reason for resistance
1. Inferiority of character
Children with inferiority complex always live in self denial and always feel that others are better than themselves. A child who is equally intelligent and excellent, but because of lack of self-confidence, it is difficult for him to express himself, so that he will miss many opportunities in vain. It is also difficult to display his talents. It is the biggest tragedy in life to miss talents. In the face of problems, they tend to be too honest and unwilling to fight, let alone resist.
2. Easily compromise
Children who are too honest are easy to compromise. They are afraid of unhappiness with others, even if it is not their own reason. In interpersonal communication, there is often a tendency to push forward, and blindly giving in will only make others more excessive, so there is a saying that people always pick up soft persimmons. The better you bully, the more you will be bullied.
3. Likes to escape
Children are too honest and timid. They are afraid of competition. Their first reaction is fear. They think about how to compromise or escape. In fact, this is due to habit. Sometimes they prefer to sacrifice their own interests in exchange for temporary peace. When difficulties come, they will face them like ostriches in an evasive way. They lack the courage to face difficulties directly.
Children are always bullied and don't know how to resist. Parents should communicate well with children to understand the process of things, and then come up with appropriate methods to help children solve problems and let children get rid of the current situation of being bullied.
