Why do you learn to be worldly wise, but still have a bad life?

The Story of Ruan Ji in the Book of Jin records such a story:
There lived a young woman who sold wine near Ruan Ji's house. She was very beautiful. Ruan Ji often went to drink in the house. When she was drunk, she directly lay beside the young woman and slept soundly. The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

According to common sense, Ruan Ji was definitely going to be beaten by other people's husbands in this way, but the strange thing was that: The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

Ruan Ji felt that nothing was wrong, and the young woman and her husband also ignored it. The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

There is no other reason for this strange phenomenon, but the common people know that Ruan Ji is open-minded, smooth and unrestrained, but never excels. The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

The "Wei Jin style" that later generations of scholars aspire to is straightforward in thought and informal in behavior. The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

The past has lasted for thousands of years. When the time came to the Republic of China, there was also a scholar who was as handsome as Ruan Ji: The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

He and a husband and wife have always been very good friends, until they live in the front yard and he lives in the back yard, with only a small door connected in the middle; The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

Except for breakfast, lunch and dinner, everyone would eat together, and whenever he had a chance, he would stay at the couple's home. The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

This person is Jin Yuelin, a master of the generation who "won the romance of the Wei and Jin Dynasties". The article originates from a two-day blog- https://2days.org/83815.html

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Jin Yuelin is frank, naive and free to act, so he has become the "casual" person in the eyes of the world.

But he seems to be "casual", in fact, he is a very serious person.

It can be said that "earnest" is his true color.

"The sword is an enemy. It's not worth learning."

Like many gifted children, Jin Yuelin is said to have the talent to remember when he was young.

People with talent are not terrible. People with talent and hard work are the most terrible. Obviously, Jin Yuelin belongs to this "most terrible person".

Jin Yuelin studied at the local Mingde Primary School when he was a child, and he attached great importance to the cultivation of Chinese culture.

One night, his sister overheard Jin Yuelin talking in his sleep, as if he was reciting the text.

Curious, she picked up Jin Yuelin's textbook and listened carefully. It turned out that her brother had four books on his back, which were exactly the same as the textbook.

From then on, Jin Yuelin's story of "reciting four books in a dream" spread in the countryside.

Jin Yuelin is talented and hardworking, which gives him great confidence. In his opinion, no matter he takes any exam, he is sure of it.

So, he confidently took the secondary examination of Tsinghua School, but to his surprise, he failed.

Well, this time it's my carelessness. Next time I must hit the target at one stroke. Who hasn't had an accident?

Just as the saying goes, "I am born to be useful", Jin Yuelin took the exam in the second year with this belief, and finally successfully entered Tsinghua University.

Jin Yuelin is a native of Changsha, Hunan Province. When he first came to Beijing to study, he was not used to the school food.

Once, an American friend came to Tsinghua to visit. When he met Jin Yuelin, he asked with concern: "Is the food in the school canteen delicious?"

Generally, students will politely say, "It's OK" or "Although it's a little off flavor, it's still delicious".

But the frank Jin Yuelin didn't give the school any face. He said, "It's not good. I can't get used to it!"

This behavior of "not giving the leadership face" embarrassed the school, and Jin Yuelin was reprimanded by the supervisor for it.

Something similar happened to Jin Yuelin more than once.

At that time, the head office of the Tsinghua Tourism Aesthetics Office was a Changsha native. Although he had been in Beijing for many years, he still spoke Changsha dialect and didn't speak Mandarin very well.

Once the General Office said to Jin Yuelin, "We have no communication difficulties. We speak Peking dialect."

Jin Yuelin was stunned for a moment and replied directly, "You obviously speak authentic Changsha dialect. How can you say it is Beijing dialect? I can't understand it!"

This little Jin, if put in the present, would be a proper ignorant fool.

In fact, he is such a casual person. He is not burdened by fame, wealth and secular life. He always says what he thinks in his heart.

Life is short and life is not easy. Why should we limit ourselves to so many rules and follow our own nature?

At the beginning of the 19th century, China's social situation was turbulent.

After graduating from Tsinghua University, Jin Yuelin chose to study abroad to study business at the University of Pennsylvania at the suggestion of his family and friends.

However, Jin Yuelin, who had experienced great social changes at this time, had already developed a strong interest in politics.

Later, in a letter to his family, he wrote:

"He who has little skills and ears can't figure out how to carve insects. I'm seven feet long. Why should I learn this strategy? Xiang Yu didn't learn swords in the past, but building swords was an enemy, and I didn't learn enough."

In Jin Yuelin's view, business is just a small skill of "one enemy", and politics is the knowledge of "ten thousand enemies". Only by learning politics well can we save our country and nation.

So after obtaining a bachelor's degree in business, Jin Yuelin decided to give up further study in business and went to study political science instead.

At this time, facing the national crisis, Jin Yuelin set a lofty ambition of "learning politics to serve the country".

With this sense of mission rising in the face of national crisis, who can say that he is an ignorant young man?

At this moment, we seemed to feel his earnest and persistent eyes, shining through the thorns of history.

"Instead of patting horses in the Ministry,

It's better to sing at the fruit stall "

Psychologically, goal oriented people are more likely to succeed.

With the goal of "studying politics to serve the country" in mind, Jin Yuelin began to study political science at Columbia University. In just two years, he obtained a doctorate in political science.

In June of the next year, the sad news of his mother's death came from his home, and Jin Yuelin returned to his hometown for mourning.

It was this return that brought Jin Yuelin back to reality from his dream and theory.

Jin Yuelin tried hard to learn western politics in order to save China, which was in dire straits at that time.

Returning to his hometown, Jin Yuelin, facing the questions of his relatives and friends, and the reality of China, found that the politics he had learned was not enough to solve China's current problems.

As a result, Jin Yuelin fell into confusion and hesitation.

After some thinking, he decided to continue his way of seeking knowledge - to Europe, to the source of Western culture, to explore the knowledge he wanted.

It was in this journey that Jin Yuelin opened a new chapter in his life and found a career for which he would devote all his enthusiasm - philosophy.

Jin Yuelin wrote in his memoirs: "It happened that I didn't live in central London for two or three months, and I didn't have the problem of shopping. In this way, I concentrated on reading the books I wanted to read, and then I entered philosophy."

His innate sense of logic seems to predestine this life, which is to rub some wonderful sparks with philosophy.

After "entering philosophy", Jin Yuelin really found his passion for life.

In the eyes of outsiders, the philosophy is boring and tedious to study, but in his eyes, it is "a game" - a game that can bring endless fun by itself without considering the results.

Take your beloved career seriously, devote yourself wholeheartedly, and do not consider complicated fame and wealth, but you can achieve "success".

Jin Yuelin also said in his article "Outstanding People and Today's Society" that he hoped intellectuals would become "independent income earners", economically independent people, and "people who don't want to make a fortune":

"Don't be a politician, don't treat officials as a profession."

"If you take getting rich as your goal, you will become a real machine."

"It is better to open a barber shop than to be an official. It is better to sing on a fruit stall than to pat horses in the ministry."

He hoped that intellectuals would be pure and unaffected by foreign objects.

Those who seem to follow their own nature in life are just those who take life seriously, take their beloved career seriously, do not get tired of fame and wealth, do not waste every day, and finally live out their true self.

Jin Yuelin demands purity and truthfulness in everything he does, and does not try to cater falsely, which is his valuable point.

"A poetic waterfall with thousands of waterfalls, and an eternal world with April sky"

When it comes to Jin Yuelin, Lin Huiyin is always a topic that cannot be avoided.

It is said that Old Jin will never marry for the sake of "beauty under the forest", but few people know that Lin Huiyin is not the only woman in Jin Yuelin's love life.

As early as during his study tour in Europe, Jin Yuelin had a "foreign girlfriend".

Her name is Qin Lilian, and she is an American. According to Tang Sheng, a good friend of Jin Yuelin, who wrote in "Remembering Mr. Jin Yuelin"

She is an American. Her hair is very short, she is tall, and she speaks very loudly. She is neither elegant nor good-looking, so I don't like her very much.

This American girlfriend has a flamboyant personality and does not stick to small details. She once made it clear that she did not advocate marriage, but was willing to "experience family life from within the family".

Jin Yuelin's thought at that time was more westernized, and he also followed the principle of never getting married. Naturally, there was a lot of common language between them.

However, with the return of Jin Yuelin, this feeling naturally dissipated.

In 1931, with the introduction of Xu Zhimo, Jin Yuelin got to know Lin Huiyin for the first time.

In the face of such a beautiful and intelligent woman, Jin Yuelin was amazed and fascinated.

He used to express his appreciation of Lin Huiyin with "what would you like to say?" He even moved to live next door to Lin Huiyin, starting his life of "living in the forest".

Jin Yuelin is pure and humorous, knowledgeable and has the same western education background as Lin Huiyin, so he appreciates Lin Huiyin's talent from the bottom of his heart.

Over time, Lin Huiyin also found that her feelings for Jin Yuelin had changed, which made her feel very painful.

Lin Huiyin believed that couples should be frank with each other. She was unwilling to hide her feelings, so she said frankly to her husband Liang Sicheng: "I fell in love with two people at the same time."

"You are free. If you choose Jin Yuelin, I will wish you happiness forever." Liang Sicheng chose to respect his wife's decision.

Lin Hui couldn't make a choice at this time, so she passed on Liang Sicheng's words to Jin Yuelin.

After listening to Liang Sicheng's words, Jin Yuelin was filled with emotion, and he resolutely said:

"Sicheng can say this, which shows that he really loves you and doesn't want you to suffer a little injustice. I can't hurt a person who really loves you. I'll quit."

Jin Yuelin said that Liang Sicheng was unwilling to hurt Lin Huiyin and let her struggle with painful choices, but he himself was right?

He didn't want to let his love for himself suffer, so he chose to withdraw from the emotional dispute on his own initiative.

After this incident, the three people regained the relationship with their former good friends, and all of them were extremely frank and trusted each other.

Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng often invite Jin Yuelin to "judge" the disputes and quarrels between them.

Jin Yuelin did not give up his love for Lin Huiyin, but chose to love Lin Huiyin in another way.

It is said that Lian Liang Sicheng said frankly, "Jin Yuelin is actually the person who loves Lin Huiyin most."

"The last thing I love you is to let go of my hands." Jin Yuelin really did this.

Someone once described the relationship between the three people as follows: "Lin Huiyin is magnanimous, Jin Yuelin is restrained, Liang Sicheng is tolerant, and they are all honest and upright monarchs. We have never seen such a triangle."

Jin Yuelin has his own views on love and marriage, which are different from the common customs.

He once persuaded a lovelorn graduate student to say:

"Love is a process, and the end of love, marriage or not, is only a stage in the process of love. Therefore, the happiness of love should be measured from the whole process of love, not just from the end."

Jin Yuelin also has such an attitude towards his own feelings. Good love is definitely not possessive,

It depends on whether you have been happy in this relationship, put aside those secular relationships, and achieve a spiritual fit with your loved ones.

Later, at Lin Huiyin's funeral, Jin Yuelin tearfully wrote such an elegiac couplet: "A thousand thousand waterfalls are poetic, and the world is in April forever."

She is an April day among others. Her laughter lights up the wind all around. She is his love and warmth.

Jin Yuelin's attitude towards love is not mixed with foreign things, only loyal to the heart, and also frank and serious.

There is a question online: "What kind of attitude towards life is serious life?"

Here's an answer: "Don't let yourself down, don't waste time, and do what you want to do with your heart."

Jin Yuelin wrote down the best answer to this question with his life, and perfectly explained what is "serious life":

He is frank, honest and open hearted. He devotes all his energy to the things he loves, and is extremely serious.

The randomness in life is not to flatter others, but to be honest with yourself;

The randomness of career is to strive for love all one's life, and to study it carefully to the end;

Emotional randomness is affordable and can be put down. It is necessary to rationally curb obsession.

May each of us be as serious and spontaneous as Jin Yuelin, and live our true selves.

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