My husband and I always hoped that someone would visit us. Of course, we never did that before. But * * * always talked to him about hoping that someone would come to visit us. We also often go to the window or door to do it, always feeling that it will be more exciting. Ask experts to explain what kind of heart I have. Is it abnormal?
Although sexual activity is an instinctive activity of all animals, for human beings, with the evolution of human beings and cultural development, human sexual needs and the way to meet them have changed in various ways, some of which are difficult for ordinary people to understand and accept. We only view sexual life from the biological and psychological perspective. Any form of sex is subordinate to the sexual purpose - sexual desire, emotion or orgasm experience. The process of generating sexual impulses and achieving sexual goals depends on the functions related to sexual life - touch, smell, hearing and vision. According to the research of sexual psychologist Havelock Ellis (British) and others, to a considerable extent, vision gradually replaced other senses and became the main channel for human beings to obtain impressions. Its scope is unlimited. It can be used to observe both the macro world and the micro world. It is the basis for the existence of many art categories, and it is also an indispensable sense for our function of eating. And no wonder, from the perspective of sexual selection, it can be said that vision is the most important sense. When men and women are thinking about love, they often think about each other's appearance. Therefore, we can better understand why you want to be watched when having sex.
In depth, why do people (you) have this mentality? It starts with the feeling of beauty. Where did the concept of beauty come from? This does not belong to the scope of sexual psychology, but if we examine human beings and their close ancestors, we will find that in the concept of beauty, sexual factors and non sexual factors are intertwined from the beginning, the sexual organs have the aesthetic feeling of being worshipped or sacred, and sexual intercourse has a mysterious color. All objects with sexy beauty and pleasing characteristics, Or in the environment with viewing conditions, people can fully express the pleasure impression obtained through vision. In the role of visual sex attraction, appearance beauty is the main factor, but not the only factor. All nations in the world know this. In the courtship process, the efforts of visual arousal of sexual impulses are often assisted by other senses.
Many human preferences are natural, such as being naked, showing, watching and being watched. Some writers described that when people were young, they had an impulse to show their growing sexual organs. Freud also mentioned in the Three Studies of Sex that even young children can experience the excitement of naked bodies, because children always like to jump around naked for a while before going to bed, and always like to raise their clothes high, even in front of strangers. He also said that "if people often recall this kind of childhood happiness that never returns, then in the future there may be a forced concept of exposure".
The forms of sexual attraction and arousal of sexual stimulation have a history of origin, and their complexity and diversity are also different from the cultural background of individual nations. Experts studying sexology and psychology believe that some people retain a so-called habit of voyeurism, that is, when they watch sexual scenes, or just watch (or be seen) the other party's sexual organs or sexual intercourse, they will feel great sexual excitement. To some extent, this phenomenon is completely normal, but because of the civilized tradition of strictly prohibiting public nudity, Only then regards it as ugly or bad behavior.
You say you want people to visit, rather than like people to visit. The reason why you like watching this psychological phenomenon when making love is also expressed from your own feelings, that is, you feel stimulated. This is what has been said before. Any sexual way is to achieve the goal of sexual excitement and orgasm experience. Stimulation is a kind of excitement and emotional climax experience. If you have ever experienced that sexual arousal can only be achieved through the "watched" situation or form, then you will rely on the watched situation psychologically, and will maintain this dependence, even if only imagined. Because of the constraints of civilization, you can only realize the need of "watching" sex in your imagination. You did the same thing. It's your freedom.
In fact, all people's behaviors are under explicit or non explicit ethical norms. As the phenomenon of sexual orientation and sexual form beyond the normal state, it is natural and normal from the perspective of pure sexual physiology and psychological motivation. It is only because they are abnormal, coupled with incorrect understanding, that they appear hidden and abnormal. Nowadays, the society has given tolerance and acceptance to many alternative sexual orientations and ways (of course, those sexual deviations that affect the society or the self-esteem of others, such as kleptomania, are excluded).
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