If the question is what, no one can say very clearly. Human beings have a special preference for the study of nature, humanity, society, science and technology. There are such research institutions all over the world, but there is no research institution for what love is. Countless literature, art, film and television, which reflect human emotions, only represent the emotional life itself in a true or exaggerated way, but have nothing to say about pure feelings.
Often, it's just a feeling that you can't say something clearly. It is not enough to just say "feeling", it must be connected with "feeling", that is, emotion, or emotion. In this way, it can be understood that emotion should be felt by the human heart rather than studied as an object.
Say feeling, you will find that love is a complex and simple feeling. It is as complex as the Chinese language, but it is difficult to penetrate it. It is as simple as a stream, and it is as clear as water.
To understand Chinese characters with sensibility, Chinese characters are not characters, but the philosophical art of characters. Because you can feel the deep emotional elements from the frame of Chinese characters.
Such as feeling, it reveals such factors as people, heart, moon, unearthed ten, the king of making a scholar, and the transcendence of the king. I understand that Wang is the human self, and the only thing that can surpass the dominance of the human self is love. Although the word "feeling" can be interpreted by people, it can be any factor element.
The word "feeling" is the most evocative of all Chinese characters. For example, when you look at or hear the word "feeling", your imagination is naturally warm, tender, romantic, family, love, lovers and other emotional things, rather than stock market, profits, robbery, honor, promotion and other illusions.
Therefore, feeling and reason are divided, and people cannot interpret the word "feeling" with reason.
Love is the blood of human beings. It is the interest of human life.
Around this blood, the word of love, you can say or write all the anecdotes in the world.
But love is like clouds, like wind, like rain. Therefore, feelings can only be felt, and can not be controlled by reason. However, love must have an object. Without the object, people cannot understand the taste of love. For example, there are several main emotions:
love , a wonderful feeling between men and women. The passion of love makes people feel that it can be thick enough to blend heaven and earth, but weak enough to disappear; It has a sense of uncertainty that makes people yearn for love and distrust love, let alone believe in eternal love. Feeling love is both ecstatic and demoralizing, which makes people infatuated and lost. Since God created man, love has become the deepest pursuit of man. It is profound that "the object is a whole that can replace the life of the subject, and losing this object will lose the whole of the subject". In ancient times, many wars were fought for love, and many heroes died for love. Nowadays, many conflicts between countries are caused by hatred, many families, and the enmity between people is caused by feelings, many individuals abandon others for love, or call up all the power of life because of love
Therefore, love is a paradox, which can save or destroy people. Love is the most precious gift that God gives to human beings, and it is also a sword that kills human nature.
Life tells us that the value and significance of human life are concentrated in love. It seems that she has mastered the secrets of human nature and become the driving force to support people to practice their destiny. However, paradox of the love warns that people must develop a rational force to control paradox of the passionate love.
Then, the power of reason is also a kind of feeling, the feeling of love that does not let love get hurt caused by the paradox of love. On this basis, love has developed a transcendental charm: understanding, tolerance, acceptance, dedication, creativity and other forces. Today, when human beings have diversified value orientations, love has lost its original passion and romance, and has more rational transcendence. People's control of love (paradox) is based on the respect and appreciation of the beauty of objects, and the respect and acceptance of the defects of objects.
But this rational transcendence is theoretically tenable and rarely seen in reality. Objectively speaking, only a few people can achieve it, but most people cannot. The reality tells us that in gender pairing, most of them are from "marriage becomes the tomb of love" to "marriage completes the battlefield of mutual attack". Human beings have far exceeded their ability to manage and control love in terms of their ability to manage and control careers. You can see the world's top hundreds in various fields, and constantly refresh the ranking list of records, but there is no ranking list of emotional strength; It is said that more people are trapped in love than worried about money, and more people see their marriages broken than their businesses fail.
The low ability to manage love only shows that love is too profound, and it is almost beyond the control of human rational ability.
family affection , an emotion between flesh and blood. This feeling is the source that nourishes people to become people with feelings. Without her, the light one will be unreasonable, and the heavy one will be paranoid or autistic. The psychoanalyst Qiang Bobby believes in the study of human psychological development that "human development is regarded as a process of creating and maintaining the original attachment of people and other important people for attachment", and emphasizes that whether people grow normally depends on two key periods in early life: the period of 0-3 years of memory and the period of 4-8 years of identity, Have you ever obtained dear family affection. From the perspective of evolution and function, biological research on animal behavior has found that monkey separation experiments show that those who deprive their parents of image cannot mate and raise young monkeys. Clinical psychology also believes that the root cause of autism children is the lack of skin contact or family touch within the age of 0-3 years.
Therefore, kinship is the prototype of the object relationship, and also the original power for individuals to establish relationships with people. If you regard an individual as a boat on a long journey in the river, then kinship is the river that pushes it forward. No matter how far you go, no matter how hard you fail, kinship will always be your peaceful harbor. One's sense of achievement can only be found outside, while one's sense of belonging can only slip to kinship. In this life, no matter you are proud or down, family love is the soft and solid backing behind you.
However, when the weather is cloudy or sunny and the moon is round or short, the family relationship will also change, just like home is where we live, but home will hurt people (Wu Zhihong wrote "Home Will Hurt People"). Historical deduction tells us that the evolution of kinship comes from the snatch of love and power. Where there is love or power struggle, there will be cannibalism and kinship aggression. It can be seen from this phenomenon that human beings are more violent creatures than animals. This transmutation makes people less loving and trusting of their relatives. From the symbolic point of view, the flesh and blood are fragile, and the flesh and blood kinship is also weak. It can be said that when the flesh and blood are sick, the kinship is also desperate.
Therefore, people should become more intelligent and understand that they can not only attach to family ties, but also separate family ties.
friendship , a kind of mutual affection between friends. Friendship should include partnership, classmates, teachers and students, colleagues and friends. They are not relatives but more like relatives.
Friendship is a strange feeling, which seems ordinary but profound. Taste friendship, as if she is the only one who follows you closely and is the emotion you can always rely on. If you feel it carefully, you will find that friendship is relaxing, and you don't have to be careful for her; It is friendship that makes people make every effort. You don't need to bear the burden; It is friendship that makes people worry and solve problems. You don't need to be indebted to it; What makes you share joy and excitement is friendship. You don't have to suppress excitement; What always makes people think about is friendship, and you don't have to worry about her... These feelings do not mean that friendship is more important than love or family, but maybe she is less important than love and family. What is often not so important is the pleasant feeling of bearing.
You can see at any time that the driving force that drives people to get together frequently, for a long time and tirelessly (eating and drinking, chatting, chatting, doing things, creating, traveling, exploring and other activities) is not family and love, but friendship!
If one's emotional life is calculated as one hundred years old, half of one's energy is devoted to friendship, or one's golden life stage is dedicated to friendship.
In the emotional world, friendship, like love and family, will also have cracks. Otherwise, there will be no such thing as "only permanent interests, no permanent friends", and there will be no such thing as "friends will betray you and hurt you". In life, when people can't get friendship, they will feel small and isolated. When they feel that friendship has been cheated or betrayed, they will be deeply trapped in a feeling of anger and jealousy. People are always noble for friendship, and always resent and hate for unfeeling.
People can have no friends, but they can't have no friends; People can not love, but not without friendship; People can also accept the loss of relatives and kinship, but can not tolerate the loss of friends and friendship.
The right and wrong, love and hate, love and hatred in the world are all derived from the word "love". Because love is the only way to love, to experience the kind of attachment and intoxication; It is also because there is no love or love, or love is hurt that there is hatred and hatred, and there are all kinds of fights and crimes of revenge.
However, attachment and intoxication are still feelings, a kind of infatuation that cannot be abandoned; Fighting and committing crimes are also feelings, a kind of resentment to vent resentment. If people are emotional animals, then people's destiny is the reincarnation of love and hate.
In the final analysis, any emotion is so magical and magnetic, and so magical and unreliable.
Love is essentially a devil angel.
