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Due to the pressure of housing loan, I dare not choose a chance to go home and work last year.
Before marriage, there was a flat in the downtown area. My parents paid most of their money to buy it. Under my name, I was a project worker who ran with the project. I was not at home for a long time. My wife's school was in Caidian, so it was almost impossible to live in the downtown area, and I was unwilling to rent it after decoration. When I first got married, my wife asked me to add her name. I refused because most of the money was from my parents at that time, and I could not make decisions. At that time, we agreed to buy a house by ourselves.
In the fourth year after marriage, when the child was three years old, his wife wanted to take care of him and go to school, so she bought a house near the school. The second suite of housing emptied all our savings. My salary is responsible for two housing loans, and I can save a little money. The savings are used for the decoration of the new house, and my wife's salary is responsible for children's expenses and self spending. At this time, my mother also came to help take care of the children, because my wife had to work during the day. My mother has to go dancing at night and go back to rest at weekends, so my wife has to take care of two children alone every weekend and holiday, which is quite tiring.
In this way, our contradiction began gradually. I had several unpleasant phone calls. I could only go back twice a month when I was in a different place. Sometimes, I would go back less often when I encountered inspections. Usually, my wife complains on the phone about some things in her life, such as my mother's failure to help when she goes dancing at night, my mother's call on the afternoon of the weekend to ask her to get a courier to disturb her sleep, and my mother's relatives tease her that her salary is not as high as mine. It's all small things that I can't blame my mother, so these trivial complaints accumulate into a river.
One week before the National Day, the focus broke out because my wife suddenly wanted to go to the countryside that Sunday. On the one hand, she had not returned to the countryside for a long time, and the children wanted to go to the countryside, and on the other hand, my wife did not want to cook. My mother refused. My mother said that there was something in the house that needed cleaning up, and the children went to make things worse. So my wife was unhappy. She felt that she was an outsider and complained to me on the phone. I joked that both of them wanted to save themselves time. She scolded me as a coward. My self-esteem was damaged, and I had no contact for six days after the Cold War.
Then my wife was more dissatisfied with me on the National Day holiday because I was also tired and wanted to rest at home. I always wanted to sleep, but I didn't do anything. I would cook on my own initiative. My wife wanted to go camping, but I didn't do it. My wife was tired of taking the children outdoors in the morning and hoped I would take the children for a nap, but I didn't do it. My wife wanted me to take more outdoor activities with my children, but I felt very hot, I don't want to go there. In short, she was very dissatisfied with the quality of my children's company during the holiday.
I think her mood is unstable. She thinks I don't understand her, and I also think she doesn't understand me. There are many things to deal with on the construction site, and also have to deal with the troubles of work. She clearly wants to buy the second suite of housing. Now she is not happy because of the hard life. She didn't buy a house before, and she didn't have so many problems when she ran back to the countryside to live on weekends, but now it has erupted.
I asked for a divorce last night. Our long-distance marriage came to an end. |
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