Recently, on a short video platform, a retired teacher's home visit video with the user name of "Zhao Juying Family Education" has aroused netizens' discussion. In the video, she was invited by her parents to visit the home of a girl in the second year of junior high school. When she saw the cartoon surrounding her desk, she showed a clear opposition, and asked the girl to throw away all the cartoon surrounding, saying it would affect her attention and learning efficiency. This was opposed by netizens in the comment area. Many people said that what they loved did not affect their learning, but gave them motivation. They felt that Mr. Zhao Juying's approach was incorrect.
In her personal profile, Ms. Zhao Juying wrote that she is a 33 year old family education expert, a senior language teacher, and a certified family and school lecturer by the American Association of Positive Corrections, and mentioned her son's outstanding achievements. However, family education mainly focuses on the interaction between parents and children, not to mention whether it is correct to invite retired teachers who have never met to visit their families. Simply applying the teacher's education method to their children is contrary to what Confucius said about "teaching students in accordance with their aptitude". Such "one size fits all" family education is unnecessary.
Family education, as its name implies, is the education of children by family elders. Compared with school education, which focuses on imparting knowledge, it needs to pay attention to the cultivation of children's moral character, interpersonal communication, and living habits, which is an essential part of children's growth. If family education degenerates into focusing on children's academic achievements, abandoning all things that have no direct relationship with learning, and letting children focus on achievements, test papers, handouts, etc. all the time, it will not stimulate children's interest in learning, but will make them hate learning or become a learning machine without dreams.
Teacher Zhao Juying may educate his children very well, but what parents should think is whether their children are also suitable for their education methods? Is belittling children's hobbies a way of education worth spreading? Is it a correct way to take academic performance as the only criterion to judge children?
To quote a sentence from teacher Zhao Juying, "education without punishment is incomplete education", but ordering children to abandon things they love and the surroundings of animation is definitely not the right and feasible punishment. "Stick education" has been abandoned by the times. Parents who think they are good for their children may not really help them; The "one size fits all" education method applicable to individual families will not be suitable for every child. The family education that parents should follow is to pay attention to children's psychological state, cultivate their interests and hobbies, and explore their bright spots.
Children should not be taught to sacrifice their hobbies and dreams, and academic performance is not the only criterion for evaluating children. Please understand and trust children more, and do not let "one size fits all" cut off their feelings with children.
