Ma Fuchun, reporter of China Youth Daily and China Youth Network, Yang Peikun, correspondent

"Compared with the betrothal gifts, I value the marital happiness of my daughter and her son-in-law more." Recently, a "zero betrothal gifts" wedding of Xin Shuangcheng's daughter in Yinzhai Village, Chengxian County, Gansu Province, created a trend of civilized marriage in the local area, which many villagers are fond of talking about.

This is the epitome of the civilized rural style construction in this western town.

In recent years, Dian villages and towns have vigorously promoted changing customs by carrying out a series of actions to build rural customs. "Low betrothal gifts", "zero betrothal gifts" and "frugal marriage" have gradually become the "new fashion" to change customs.

"We have revised and improved the village rules and regulations to manage the general manager, formulated and issued proposals to manage the long-term development, established the Red and White Council and other specialized agencies to manage the affairs, explored and formulated standards to manage the details, integrated and revitalized resource management services, and also explored and established a reward and punishment mechanism." Yang Xiaodong, secretary of the Diancun Party Committee, introduced that it is through a pragmatic, practical and close to the masses of measures, The new trend of civilized and healthy marriage customs in Dian villages and towns has been continuously promoted, and the good voice of civilization has been sung to the villagers.

"The thought should not be closed, marriage is not a transaction, my happiness is my own decision, and I should be brave to say no to the stereotypes" "High price betrothal gifts will not work, ambitious young people will spread good stories, we should use action to prove the correctness of our choice, and respond to the benefits of 'zero betrothal gifts' with entrepreneurial results!" Recently, at the forum on changing customs held by the Youth League Committee in Dian villages and towns, Young people have expressed their attitudes towards changing customs and managing high priced betrothal gifts.

Since this year, in response to the call of the Party Committee and the government, the village league organizations in Dian Village and Town of Chengxian County have firmly grasped the time node when marriage is relatively concentrated, focused on promoting the key work of changing customs and resisting high price bride price in the whole town, gave full play to the advantages of young people's active thoughts and novel ideas, and held youth symposiums, speech contests, reading conferences and other activities, Gather youth strength to help the construction of township style civilization, vigorously promote "071213" (that is, advocating "zero bride price", catering with about 70 yuan of wine, about 10 yuan of cigarettes, no more than 20 tables, no more than 100 yuan of gifts, and generally no more than 3 days of funeral) and other restrictive mechanisms and advocacy standards, and promote the work of changing customs horizontally and vertically, Let the masses "pack lightly" in weddings and funerals to ensure that the work of changing customs takes root and new results are achieved.

Wang Lei is a full-time clerk in Heiqi Village, Diancun Town. She is not only the first group of initiators and responders who participated in the collective wedding ceremony and "zero lottery" in Longnan City, but also gains a happy life and a successful career with her own persistence, becoming an example for the surrounding youth.

"I married out with a 'zero lottery' through my own efforts, and used the money saved to invest in entrepreneurship. My life is very happy, which has strengthened my confidence and determination to be a practitioner, advocate and communicator of marriage customs in the new era." Wang Lei said.

"Hello, please take a look at our proposal. Did you get the video of Xin Shuling's bride price wedding during the May Day holiday?" "Now, responding to the policy, you can also enjoy a series of preferential policies for starting businesses and buying houses. Let me take you to calculate the account..." During this period, Wang Baopeng, the Youth League Branch of Dazhai Village, Diancun Town, was extremely busy. He not only had to rely on the village youth home position, Young volunteers were organized to put up posters, hold reading meetings, carry out propaganda on changing customs, and explain preferential policies to both sides and take them to calculate a "fine account" during the "help" of the little brothers in the village when they talk about marriage.

With the evidence of Wang Baopeng's happy marriage of "zero lottery", the youth of Dazhai Village have actively responded to the call of "zero lottery" and held simple and meaningful wedding ceremonies. The new style of marriage has gradually replaced the "old customs".

"As parents, what matters most is the happiness of their children. They may not listen to the opinions of outsiders, but when the daughter says that the high price of the bride price has become a stumbling block in her happy life, the parents who are good at face will also be soft hearted." This is what Wang Baopeng learned in his work.

Recently, by making full use of the positioning and advantages of the Youth League Organization, Dian villages and towns have advocated to the youth of the whole town to break the old and innovate, and to abandon bad habits. At the same time, the joint enterprise has launched a series of preferential policies, giving out good "dowry" of super value, truly reducing the burden of love with zero lottery gifts, and fueling happiness with big gift packages.

"We should focus on feelings and create happiness with our own hands.", Adding happiness to marriage has become the consensus and active choice of the majority of young couples, which has driven the continuous improvement of the whole countryside. Last year, the town's "must answer question" to do a good job in extravagance and waste management of weddings and funerals was selected into the fourth batch of typical cases of "civilized township style construction" nationwide.

　　 "We give full play to the role of youth league organizations, build a platform for young people to make friends by holding youth friendship activities, guide young people to establish a correct concept of love and marriage, conduct in-depth research on young people's love and marriage problems, deeply analyze the root causes of the existence of high priced betrothal gifts, seek a thorough solution in terms of policy and system design, and vigorously promote the 'new wedding and funeral brief The construction of a civilized countryside style of "doing nothing but doing nothing" has shaped a good family atmosphere and cultivated a simple folk custom. " Yang Xiaodong said.