[On the spot, I am thinking]

Original title: Guarding the childhood of calling friends for children

be sociable

"Children are lonely at home, but they can't find anyone to play with, and sometimes they look pitiful." According to the fifth issue of Half Moon Talk, the phenomenon that many children have "no social interaction" or are seriously lacking in social interaction has aroused concern, and many parents said that "in a community with thousands of people, children can't find a playmate of the same age downstairs" "If you want to find peer partners for your children, you have to go to the training class, which is full of children"

Playing with friends is a happy memory of many people's childhood. Playing football, playing sandbags, and jumping rubber bands are connected with the laughter of childhood. Even if there are only three or two partners sitting around and saying a few words, they are happy and satisfied. In today's words, in playing with peers, every child will find a sense of existence and belonging. It has nothing to do with specific forms of play, and playmates do not even need to be fixed. Now, this once natural thing has become impossible.

Finding playmates for my son in primary school has also become an important task for me - if I want to play at the door of my home, the most timely departure order is to let the children play downstairs. For a while, I always prick up my ears to help my son listen, but even so, it is often after he quickly puts on his clothes and goes downstairs, he finds that the little partner has already disappeared. Later, his son targeted the small park near his home, but most of the park were kindergarten children, and most of his peers who could play with him went out of class.

Later, I simply added the parents' WeChat messages of classmates who played well with my son, and even included the children of the same age of colleagues and friends in the category of play appointments. By means of point-to-point appointment and group building, children's desire to play together will no longer be frustrated, and they should not be lonely at this age.

Similarly, in order to let children play together, many parents can be said to have broken their hearts, but it is obviously worth doing so. When my son plays with his friends, I often observe from the side - every minute when he is with his playmates, his son has a smile on his mouth and a light in his eyes. His prudence and confidence in simulated gunfights, and his excitement and selflessness in chasing and fighting are unprecedented when he is alone; His happy expression when communicating with his friends about interesting things in life, and his humility and care when playing with children younger than himself, always make me feel gratified, and also strengthen my determination to continue to take this heart.

Playing and interacting with children is an indispensable growth experience, where children have their own happiness, the taste of friendship, and the most primitive and genuine love of life. Many parents also understand this truth, but when the other side of the scale is extra-curricular classes and remedial classes, playing with partners becomes optional, and even considered to be a waste of time. At present, some primary and secondary school students have frequent psychological problems such as depression and anxiety, which has something to do with the large number of social interactions and the compressed and occupied interaction time of children.

Children often need social interaction and friends more than we think. When encountering unhappy things, listening and talking among children can't be replaced by other ways. Although the expression and relief of this emotion is more implicit, it is related to the character development and mental health of children, which is by no means dispensable, and sometimes even just a need.

A person's nature and emotions often affect his way of life, and even determine the direction of life. In this sense, "sharpening the knife does not hurt the firewood cutter", creating opportunities and space for children to play with their partners, so that they can have healthier psychology, more sound personality, and stronger social adaptability under the nourishment of friendship, thus better promoting their growth into a person with lifelong learning aspirations and abilities.

"My mother asks me to learn from 'other people's children' all day long, but I can't even see 'other people's children'." The netizen's complaint is heartbreaking. To regain the right to call friends for children, parents need to change their ideas, provide more social opportunities for children, and more need the participation and support of all sectors of society, such as optimizing the public environment, building child friendly communities, etc., to leave a convenient and safe space for children to play.