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Instruct the boy to smash his beloved handle with a hammer and install a camera in his bedroom; Ask girls to throw toys, comic books, etc. on their desks into the dustbin, and scold them for "simply wearing diapers"... Recently, short videos released by social media accounts such as "Zhao XX Family Education" have been subject to social controversy, and many netizens have complained that they are "bullying education" and "humiliating education".

In the afternoon of May 6, the staff of Jiayuguan Municipal Education Bureau responded to the media that Zhao XX would retire from a primary school in the city in 2023. The Education Bureau would investigate the problems reflected by netizens.

Video source: poster news

A retired primary school teacher, who claimed to be a "33 year old senior family education expert", in the released video, made a lot of sarcasm and ridicule at other people's children, and advocated such extreme educational concepts as "education without punishment is not complete education" and "if you can't get into high school, your life will be over". Many netizens are not angry after reading it, saying that "education is inspiration, not control", "even basic respect, what about education"

But what is more worrying at the moment is that many parents have quite recognized the "bullying education" like Zhao XX on some social platforms.

If these videos are real rather than planned, we can easily see some parents' anxiety and confusion in family education——

When children's academic performance is poor, some parents always feel that it is mainly because of inappropriate hobbies such as going to concerts and doing things by hand; When children rebel in adolescence and turn a deaf ear to their parents' words, some parents suspect that their children are careless in making friends or are addicted to games... When achievement is the king's way, it becomes natural for parents to see their children's growth laws and emotional needs. They are eager to isolate those "irrelevant" hobbies from their children, Even when he was ill, he rushed to the hospital to find foreign aid and move soldiers.

Source: People's Daily Online

Nowadays, the importance of family education has been mentioned on many occasions. We media bloggers who focus on teaching the truth and secrets of family education from all walks of life have gained many parents' fans, including some bloggers who have insights and can give pertinent suggestions, However, a few of the We Media, under the guise of "everything is good for children", use intimidation, suppression and violence education to attract attention. Parents still need to sharpen their eyes and identify accurately.

From a certain point of view, "bullying education" is also a mirror of reality. Many netizens commented under the video that "this practice is really rude, but it seems to see their own shadow".

Yeah, Those cruel punishments and heartless words may be playing out in reality. I'm afraid that some parents have just regretted beating, scolding and threatening their children, and the "bullying education" video they later painted has helped to support such rudeness. Many years ago, a "Internet addiction expert" who used electric shock, acupuncture, drugs and other methods to treat teenagers' Internet addiction was controversial. How can "bullying education" make a comeback when the educational concept continues to mature and progress?

Source: Xinhua News Agency Wang Qi

There are no identical children in the world, and family education needs to vary from person to person and from event to event. The ideal family education is to accompany the children wholeheartedly as much as possible, to try to enter the children's inner world with equality, love and care, to be considerate and sympathetic to cry and laugh with them, to guard and look out for them on the way of growth, to shield them from wind and rain

Taking toys from children and throwing them into dustbin is not a good family education; It is better to understand, care and listen to children more and help them put their inner garbage into the dustbin. When education is on the right path, children's hearts will be able to hold their parents' good words and teachings, and they will live into their own light.